The need to communicate with their peers

Adolescence a period of “Storm and stress”

Personal development of a teenager is characterized by two main needs: on the one hand the need to prove oneself, the need to communicate with their peers, for leading activities in this age — intimate and personal.

These needs and form the basic features of mental development of a teenager. One of the main features of mental development can be considered a personal instability of a teenager. No wonder Stanley Hall called adolescence a period of “Storm and stress”. For in this period in the teenager’s personality co-exist directly opposite needs and features. Today, Your daughter humbly sitting with their relatives and talk about virtue. And tomorrow, depicting the face of war paint and punctures the ear a dozen earrings, go to disco, saying that “in life you have to experience everything”. And You have to wonder, does my daughter grows a hypocrite? But it’s nothing special (from the perspective of Your child) didn’t happen: she just changed her mind.

The same applies to Hobbies and Hobbies. A month after fencing, Your son suddenly declares that he’s a pacifist. To kill anyone is a terrible sin. These things and carried away with the same passion to stamp collecting.

But most of all the features of personal development of a teenager are evident in communication with peers (for recall, leading activity of this age period – intimately personal).

FRIENDSHIP. Any teenager dreams of a bosom friend. What about this, who can be trusted “100”, as myself, who would be betrayed. Other looking for similarities, understanding, acceptance. Each satisfies the need for self-understanding. Practically, Each is an analogue of the therapist. Friends often with undergrowth of the same sex, social status, the same powers (though sometimes friends are selected on the contrast, in addition to its missing features). Friendship is selective, treason is not forgiven. And coupled with teenage maximalism friendships are of a peculiar character: on the one hand – the need for the only a devout friend, on the other – a frequent change of friends provided for the post by International Adoption research blogger and columnist.

LOVE. Love at this age are less stable than youthful. Counselors “summer camps”, probably, have repeatedly noted one feature of adolescent amorousness. For example, in the beginning of the shift, the boy in love with a girl in the middle is jealous of another, and by the end of shift exchanges phones with third. And because each of the relationships is quite serious intentions, which the boy believes. But actually not all so is simple. It is often the object of love is generally divided into:

– a girl in love perfectly

– show relationship (walk) with the other.

A significant role in shaping the personality of undergrowth plays a REFERENCE GROUP is important for the adolescent group, whose views he adopts. This may be domestic company, and the class, and friends at mug, and the neighborhood kids on the floor. That’s when parents need to be especially careful. Because this group is highly respected in the eyes of a child than the parents themselves, and can affect his behavior and relationship with others. And it is the opinion of the members of this group of teen will listen. It will try to establish itself.